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Collective Action & Conflict Resolution

WHILE WE ARE KEEPING SOCIAL DISTANCE AND HAVE A LOT OF TIME ON OUR HANDS, LET’S DO SOME CONFLICT RESOLUTION…

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COLLECTIVE ACTION & CONFLICT RESOLUTION

How is Collective Action Related to Conflict Resolution?

"What do you do when the conflict you have is not with an individual? When you are in conflict with a policy, a law, something unfair in society?" This was the question asked in a class for conflict resolvers recently.

In general, the skills and strategies in conflict resolution are oriented toward individuals or small groups. In the mediation process, even multi party mediations, it is rare to have more than a handful of people involved. Most mediations are between two people. Conflict resolvers might facilitate difficult conversations among a group, helping to create a positive environment for all voices to be heard and respected.

There are intersections and overlapping concepts that connect political, social and cultural movements with the concepts of conflict resolution. Below is an adapted chart showing the range of approaches that can be taken when one wants to effect large scale change. Mediators fit in there, probably more toward the individualistic and persuasive quandrant of the chart. Those involved in alternative dispute resolution, such as mediation, work to make change and have an impact on the world one conflict at a time.

Working with others

We are going through a time where we can witness the impact and achievements of collective action. When one person joins with others the multiplied strength can make a big difference. Similar to analyzing individual conflicts, some of the same aspects can be found in collective social movements.

Groups make demands--in conflict resolution we call these positions. Underneath these demands are interests. People join together because their interests match up. For the student who asked, what to do when you want to change things, the answer might be to find a group that matches your interests. See interests

Another parallel connecting conflict resolution concepts with social movement groups is the necessity for negotiation. When coming to collective agreement on the direction of the group, participants find themselves involved in many of these discussions. What is most important? Which actions should we take? How should we articulate our beliefs? Who is best to represent us?

And when a group is able to achieve the desired change, negotiating a durable agreement overlaps with the work done in mediation and other conflict resolution processes.

Values and Identity

As we learn in conflict analysis, conflicts are related to values and identities. We are often moved to act when something negatively impacts how we see ourselves in the world -- our identity--and the standards we set for how we live our lives - our values. See values see Identity. Often individuals choose to work with a group that aligns with their values and/or identity and in this way can be comfortable that the work of the group represents them well.

Conflict Styles Matrix

In conflict resolution we are familiar with the conflict styles matrix. We might apply this chart to the work of social movements and groups. When to accommodate? When to be more assertive or avoidant? As part of a group that is seeking change, we might look along the diagonal-to compromise and collaborative/ creative problem solving to set a goal for how to move forward.

Do this:

  • Read about intersection between social movements and conflict resolution article & article

  • Short interview about mediators involved in social movements video

  • Consider the chart above that shows the relationship between individual and collective actions. Where do you fit? What topics would motivate you to join with others to affect change? What policies, laws or cultural norms do you feel conflict with your values and/or identity?

Celebrate the Graduates

WHILE WE ARE KEEPING SOCIAL DISTANCE AND HAVE A LOT OF TIME ON OUR HANDS, LET’S DO SOME CONFLICT RESOLUTION…

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CELEBRATE THE GRADUATES

You can learn to help others resolve conflicts

In this midst of the graduation season, however transformed in the current situation, there are some graduates you may not have heard about. This week three groups of conflict resolution students finished their coursework.

The Conflict Resolvers

This group met once a week for the last three months to develop conflict resolution skills and tools. Most of these participants are involved in public service. They met by video conference in a supportive group who took on many difficult concerns. Here are some of the topics in the course:

  • Defining conflict

  • Conflict metaphors

  • Conflict styles

  • Analyzing conflicts

  • Effect of conflict on our stress levels

  • Becoming better listeners

  • Using neutral language

  • De-escalation techniques

Congratulations to the graduates of the Conflict Resolver course. You will make a difference!

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The Youth Mediators

Their classmates are performing their musical concerts by video conference and missing the prom. These ten MVRHS students have managed a unique milestone. They have attended 15 or more hours of training as youth mediators. Sitting on their beds with their pets in their laps and handling uncooperative internet, our newest and youngest mediators worked hard to become ready and willing to help other young people to resolve their conflicts. In their classes they learned about:

  • Mediation principles: Confidentiality, Neutrality, Voluntariness, Self-Determination.

  • The structure of mediation: Introduction, Hearing conflict story, Encouraging negotiation, Finalizing agreement.

  • Asking open-ended questions

  • Being professional

  • Using patience

  • Being self-reflective

They are remarkable young people, with poise and commitment. Their work is ahead of them. They are ready to help. We should all be proud.

The Conflict Coaches

These mediators participated in the initial training in the practice of conflict coaching. Even though they are all experienced mediators, they seek to learn how to work 1:1 with clients who want to improve their approach to conflict. Working as a coach is different than leading the process of mediation. The course looked at the following concepts:

  • What is coaching?

  • Listening like a coach.

  • Using feedback.

  • Probing for needs, values, identity.

  • Analyzing internal and external conflict

  • Surveying mutuality. 

  • Using the pro/con tool for planning.

Now those who are going forward toward full qualification will endeavor through an apprenticeship, participating in a number of practice coaching cases, with ongoing supervision and feedback.

Good news

Its a difficult time, the curent events and our lives are challenging. Yet, there is good news. These fine people took their time, their brains and their commitment and worked to learn new skills to help other people. Its heartening to know there are folks among us who are looking to make things better.

If you are interested in learning skills in the conflict resolution area, reach out to our organization or to your local community mediation group. Mediators, Conflict Coaches and Conflict Resolvers are not born--they are developed through learning and dedication.

Congratulations to all the graduates!

Learn more:

  • What is conflict coaching? Article

  • Conflict resolution in public service. Article