Rain has been around a lot longer than humans. Sun, too. As long as our species has existed there has been weather, and people have found lots of different ways to handle it.
It’s rough out there. Wars, atrocities, mass shootings, global warming, toxic polarization, free-floating anger and anxiety. As I talk to people around me, I find many are distracted and off-center.
The misunderstandings, assumptions and judgments between generations cause some real conflicts. It is natural for people to believe the way they were raised, the time they grew up and the standards they considered as the norm are superior to other generations’ ways of being. Just like my grandmother and her hand-cranked dryer, it is hard to adopt to new ways.
When my grandmother handed me the wet clothes and told me to “put them through the wringer,” I had no idea what to do. “Go ahead, don’t dawdle. Get those clothes done.”
This month I ask you to get out your reading glasses and absorb some new ideas from various authors. I’d like to introduce you to writers who are expanding knowledge in the field of conflict resolution and connected topics. Happy reading!
Conflicts are driven by values: Pick a conflict, any conflict. You don't have to look too deeply to see that the conflict is, at least in part, fueled by individual values.
The problem of the twenty first century is othering. The solution is belonging. These are the words of Dr. john a. powell who has dedicated his life to teaching and writing about othering, belonging and what he calls bridging; the way to get from one to the other.
We’ve all got families: birth, chosen, adoptive, step, nuclear, extended. Whatever type of family is yours, along with the joys and shared milestones, there’s likely a common factor: unresolved conflict.
Time -- the conflict causer and conflict resolver: We all have our own time conceptions. For some, existence is measured in the context of the last seven generations or centuries.
Identities and Conflicts are Related. We all self-identify: Some of these identities are obvious, based on something inherent: 1980's baby, tall, youngest sibling.