Rain has been around a lot longer than humans. Sun, too. As long as our species has existed there has been weather, and people have found lots of different ways to handle it.
It’s rough out there. Wars, atrocities, mass shootings, global warming, toxic polarization, free-floating anger and anxiety. As I talk to people around me, I find many are distracted and off-center.
The misunderstandings, assumptions and judgments between generations cause some real conflicts. It is natural for people to believe the way they were raised, the time they grew up and the standards they considered as the norm are superior to other generations’ ways of being. Just like my grandmother and her hand-cranked dryer, it is hard to adopt to new ways.
When my grandmother handed me the wet clothes and told me to “put them through the wringer,” I had no idea what to do. “Go ahead, don’t dawdle. Get those clothes done.”
MV Mediation is pleased to announce a $2,500 grant from the Martha’s Vineyard Bank Charitable Foundation to support the Youth Mediation Program and Peace Curriculum. The Peace Curriculum, developed by Executive Director Sara Barnes, is a 10-week conflict resolution and positive communication program designed to teach conflict resolution to the students of Martha’s Vineyard. Using integrative and hands-on activities, students learn to apply skills to resolve conflict in their day-to-day lives.
How and when and where did you learn about how to handle conflicts? Most of us have learned our personal conflict management approaches from the modeling of others. Throughout your life you were watching, observing, considering, and trying out new methods and developing your own style as a conflict resolver.
It’s rough out there. Wars, atrocities, mass shootings, global warming, toxic polarization, free-floating anger and anxiety. We are often asked at MV Mediation about what we can do about world problems. Global conflicts and intractable societal problems weigh heavily on conflict resolvers’ minds just as they do for everyone. I thought that I’d offer approaches that have helped me, thinking they might help others during difficult times.
In recognition of Veteran’s Day:
5 veterans’ skills to apply to conflict resolution
In recognition of National Kindness Day:
How to show kindness in professional settings
Making tough decisions with compassion
Here are some reflective questions that might facilitate kindness when in conflict
Kind conflict resolution in the classroom
Preparing for family and holiday conflicts:
Dealing with difficult relationships
Conflict-free visits: Is this realistic?
Managing unresolved conflict
Other:
Don’t take it personally
Learning mutuality
Using a neutral to talk to your team about difficult news and current events
Conflict narratives and emotions
Here’s a link to one of our favorite websites on peace and conflict; lots of resources here
Four ways to create quality connections at work
The impact of pressure to accommodate others on conflict resolution
How curiosity can transform your relationships
Where one sits is important
